Tuesday, December 28, 2010

6. Mistaken love.

   One can love anyone if he has the love of God. Of course we should love everyone in the Lord if we are the followers of Jesus, the children of God.
   But what is love, what is the love of God?
   Before we study what is love, the love of God let us first learn and understand one thing which we misunderstood as love, so that we can clearly understand love, the love of God.

   We misunderstood ‘like’ as ‘love’ or we mistook it as love when we like someone (because that someone is beautiful in our eyes or one like someone when one found someone beautiful) and really want to look or always look, really want to be with, touch, feel or marry that someone who is beautiful in our eyes.
   We mistakenly thought, we misunderstood, desire as love when our desire is so strong, when the desire to see, desire to be with, desire to touch, desire to feel, or marry is so strong.

   Desire is thought, a dominating and/or an intense thought, Yes, it, desire, comes by seeing, or knowing, or knowledge and contemplating, or thinking continuously or too much or deeply.
   One cannot desire something which he did not see or know, and one cannot desire something which he see or know if he did not contemplate, or think continuously or deeply.

   We human like someone and want to always see and be with, touch, feel or marry mainly because that someone is beautiful and because we have eyes (that recognize his/her beauty)which satisfy by beauty and, above all, because we have desires, of sex, which is natural. But we cannot call that likeness as love though we think that is love, though we mistook it as love.

   Because we have eyes we are attracted to beauty, for, beauty is the satisfaction of the eye. But natural desire (of sex) is the driving force behind the eye, which lead man/woman to desire beautiful woman/man, which leads us to desire or intense desire to see, be with, touch or possess/marry beauty - beautiful/handsome one. And, indeed, it lead us to marriage.
   If one did not have a natural desire, of sex, we will be attracted to beauty of man like we are attracted to the beauty of flowers or natures we will have no intense desire, or intense dominating thought for beauty which pressure, or impel us within, or from inside to see, be with, touch or possess/marry beautiful/handsome one, we will have no intense desire, or intense dominating thought to see, be with, touch or possess/marry beautiful/handsome one.
  And, we will not even think of marriage nor we would know what is marriage? Or the meaning of marriage. In short words, marriage is sex. Marriage of man in the Lord is the integration of two opposite sex to live together forever(if this life last forever) which includes sex. Indeed, sex is for marriage only according to God.

   Beauty is one of the attractor, but behind that, the greatest stimuli is the natural desire, of sex, excluding the love of God. Indeed, love stimulate, or motivate. Indeed, the greatest stimulation/motivation is love, the love of God.

   Because of desires(including sex desire) and because there is beauty there exist ‘“intense beautition, like-ness and desire(of beautiful/handsome one)” at first sight’ which we misunderstand as ‘“love” at first sight.’
   Indeed, that which we called ‘love at first sight’ was nothing but ‘intense beautition, intense like-ness and intense desire to be with, touch or possess/marry the beautiful/handsome one, which at times can’t be or difficult to describe because of its intensity and that is why we mistakenly named ‘love at first sight and also love.’ I would call that lave at first sight.
   Or, though we may call that ‘intense beautition, intense like-ness and intense desire of beauty at first sight’ as ‘love at first sight’ we do not understand that it is ‘intense beautition, intense liking and intense desire of beauty’, therefore, we should not call it ‘love at first sight or love’, I would call that lave not love. (What is love? The next article will explain, if God grant me life to add another article)
   Normal and also extreme or intense beautition, like-ness and desire(of beautiful/handsome one) comes out from us, from the seeer, or from the one who see, the beauty. Extreme or intense beautition, like-ness and desire(of beautiful/handsome one) comes when we see, or found beautiful/handsome one, when we find good, or perfect match of our eyes.
   When we find or meet good or perfect match of our eyes beautition comes up on its on and then likeness and then desire quickly follows.
   Yes, we are paused, or touch by beauty at first sight and also at sight, or we feel extremely(very) beautiful, extremely like and extremely desire only when we find, or meet the good, or perfect match of our eyes. Because our eyes is limited, it has its own choice of beauty.
   And that love of beauty which is not love but ‘intense/extreme beautition, like-ness and desire’ of beauty don’t last long, for, it is not love but ‘intense beautition, like-ness and desire’.
   Yes, when the beauty fade, or when other beauty or beautier is met or found some or many who do not possess love, the love of God rejected, or discard or may discard beauty(beautiful/handsome one) in one or another way like divorce, cruelty, adultery, etc.

   Beautition is not love. Beautition is when a person find someone beautiful/handsome and feel/think or accept that she/he is beautiful.handsome.

   Natural desire(of sex) is the most strongest stimuli except the love of God for, the love of God is the greatest of all things. ‘Because of beautition, like-ness and desires of beauty one want, or ‘desire’ a particular person to see and be with, touch and have sex or marry someone but, it is all because it(beautition, like-ness and desires) is back by natural desire(of sex). Yes, one desire to see and be with, touch and have sex or marry someone because he have strong natural desire(of sex), which back him up. But we misunderstand that ‘desire’ as ‘love’ like we misunderstand the combination of ‘beautition, likeness and desire(of beauty, sex, to see, be with, etc.’ as ‘love’, or lave as love.
   But that ‘desire’(desire to see, to be with, to care, etc.) which we sometimes or mostly misunderstand as ‘love’ doesn’t last long if that natural desire(of sex) fade. Or if that natural desire is not achieved, or fulfilled  and it resulted in divorce, or adultery, etc. Because, that desire is not love, it is not even a product, or result of love but a product of nature. And desire(of sex) is also not love, it is not even a product, or result of love but a product of nature.
   Likewise, beautition and likeness is not love.

   But, love from the deepest heart, the love of God will last forever. Really, if one have the love of God, if one love someone like Jesus, “love your enemies” “forgive seventy times seven” there will never exist divorce nor adultery, or any evil deeds. (Matthew 5: 44, 18: 21) For, if one love God he love his fellowman.

   But, beauty gives no guarantee. And desire is destruction without control, it leads to hell if uncontrolled.

   Beauty is one of the most important for who is not blind. But without the love of God beauty is nothing.
   The love of God is the most important of all, whether in married life or not, in life and last not only life time but, forever, eternity.

   One can look at beauty as much as one can, that is not sin, for example, One can look at the beauty of roses, scenery etc. and that is not sin.
   But when sinful things like adultery, covetousness, etc. fills, or enters the mind, one must repent and pray with faith, for, sinful thoughts are sins.
   “Lord, please, forgive me for I commit adultery, etc. , (but, since, Jesus has died before we are born, so, one should have faith that God had already forgave him, and say) thank you for forgiving me before I ask Your forgiveness, if it is Your will, please, take this sinful thought out of my mind and give me clean [mind] heart, sanctified me like Jesus{or, cleanse or purify me as clean as Jesus} but as you will, all this I pray in Jesus name, Amen” and try not to think sinful things but think about the love of God or other which is not sinful but according to God. And if one is tempted to think sinful things by seeing, or looking something he must take his eyes out of it.

   Beauty without the love of God, or a beautiful one who do not possess love, the love of God is, unprofitable or unbeneficial, worthless or rubbish, nothing but destruction, and temptation. Then, why seek beauty?
   But if we wish, we can seek beauty of our eyes as long as we are human and can see but only according to God.
   First seek those who have love, the love of God and then beauty of your eyes, for, it is written, “Matthew 22: 37 Jesus said to him, “‘You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul, and with all your mind.’ 38 “This is the first and great commandment.” 39 And the second is like it: ‘You shall love your neighbour as yourself.’”
   If we really love God, if we love Him with all our heart, soul and mind we will not marry beauty of our eyes who have no love, the love of God but, we will marry only beauty who have love, the love of God.
   But if one find beauty among non or false believer and do not find among believer he should convince him or her to have the love of God and then marry, but if he or she refuse we are to chose the love of God than beauty which lack the love of God, we are to love God more than the world or its beauty.
   If one marry beauty of his eyes but who do not have love, the love of God he is sinning. It would be better for him to pluck his eyes out than sinning, marrying non or false believer, because of his eyes. “Matthew 5:  29 And if  thy right eye offend thee, pluck it out, and cast it from thee: for it is profitable for thee that one of thy members should perish, and not that thy whole body should be cast into hell. 30 And if thy right hand offend thee, cut it off, and cast it from thee: for it is profitable for thee that one of thy members should perish, and not that thy whole body should be cast into hell.”

   One must control his eye, his desire, everything in the Lord, for, it can lead us to hell. Without selfcontrol no one can follow God.
   If one can control himself or herself and willing to change to, willing to accept and live, whatever God have told or will tell, then, he or she will find all answer, yes, there is peace, or answer in willingness itself, for, if one is willing to accept and live every word of God he will accept any situation or circumstance and overcome in the Lord, he will follow every word of God without any complain. When one is not willing, when one cannot accept the word of God he cannot find answers , and his misunderstand and suffering is extreme.
  One must pray to God, “Lord, I sacrifice my desire to have a wife/husband to you, please, give us, give all those who need wife or husband, not what we like but what You like.”
   If one have faith in Him he will pray to Him and, work, seek who is beautiful in his eyes but who, is believer, have the love of God. And if he did not find among believer he/she will tell the word of God to the one, non or false believer, he like so that he/she can marry if the non or false believer accept and live the word of God. One should remember that, faith without work is death, and here or that is also where one must apply faith in God.
   Of course, we should apply faith in God in our work, in our everyday life, yes, we should always be, or we should live in the faith.
   Many times I am ‘“touch” by beauty at first sight', which we, sometimes, mistaken as '"love" at first sight.'
I cannot possess them all, so, its best to find a beautiful who have the love of God.

   Everyone ‘want’ beauty, and one thought they love, or one mistake that ‘want’ as ‘love’, but not everyone love beauty, for, everyone did not have the love of God, and when one did not have the love of God they spoils beauty.
   First of all Satan, spoil, destroy the beauty of man and earth, the love of man and earth, yes, the love of God which is in man and earth.
   The love of God comes form the heart and have no enemies, no limit, no discrimination, but for all. So, if one have the love of God he/she is peace to all, he/she love all, can live with all and will hurt or destroy no one.

   No one is ugly but beautiful in the eyes of love, in the eyes of God, for, He is love. Therefore, calling one’s, brother, fellowman ugly is sinful. Look at all those flowers they all are beautiful and they have their own beauty, its the eyes of man that separate, or distinguish, for, the eyes of man is limited. One is not ugly, but in the eyes of, man, someone one is beautiful and also ugly for another, likewise one is ugly in the eyes of someone and also beautiful for the eyes of another.
   But when we have love, the love of God we will never call our fellow man ugly instead we will be able to see how beautiful they are in the eyes of love, in the eyes of God, for, He is love.

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